Growing up with a visible difference has had an impact on Bronwen’s life. But while the multiple surgeries and treatments she has had for her cleft lip and palate and amniotic band syndrome have been a big part of that, she tells me that the emotional impact has been bigger.
Now aged 18 and set to go to university in a few weeks’ time, Bronwen explains what life is like when you have a visible difference.
Bronwen has had friends and family on her side, but strangers and bullies have always been present, too. Sam Killick, Wellbeing Co-ordinator for Children and Young People at Changing Faces, tells me that these are not uncommon experiences. Changing Faces is the UK’s leading charity for anyone with a mark, scar or condition that affects their appearance.
Dealing with other people’s prejudices has left Bronwen struggling with her confidence at times.
Changing Faces offers a range of different services and runs media campaigns to highlight the prejudice and discrimination that people can face because of having a visible difference.
One of the services is workshops for young people with a visible difference, as well as offering counselling, workshops for parents, resources for schools, a skin camouflage service, and a support and information line.
Sam, along with colleague Julie Carr, runs workshops offering help and advice to deal with things like staring, bullying, awkward social situations, and low self-esteem. Using imagery of ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) and looking at how children and young people can celebrate themselves, as well as techniques such as ERD (explain, reassure, divert), attendees can leave with improved confidence and tools to help them navigate life as somebody with a visible difference.
Support from Changing Faces has been integral to Bronwen’s progress since she has attended these workshops, meeting other young people with a visible difference and ultimately becoming a Champion within the organisation.
Of course, not everything is smooth sailing, and Bronwen tells me that things are not always great.
I was interested to know what it’s like to be a young person with a visible difference at a time when everything is immortalised in selfies and group photos. Bronwen says that, while she’s not a big user of social media herself, she has sometimes found it difficult when friends take group snaps.
Sam tells me this is not an unusual concern.
Bronwen got involved with Changing Faces on the advice of a psychologist who was part of her clinical team, and her experience of meeting others with similar life stories has been profound.
Bronwen is carrying that positivity forwards in her plans to study counselling and psychotherapy at university. Being a person with a visible difference has given her an insight into the difficulties people can face.
Learn more
Changing Faces' next ‘Step Up Your Self-Esteem’ online workshop is on 20 September. It is for 11-16 year olds who have a mark, scar or condition that affects their appearance. Email support@changingfaces.org.uk to register or find out more information.
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